“Intentional Parenting – Family Discipleship by Design”

Keith Tusing September 27, 2011 8

Intentional Parenting   Family Discipleship by Design Children\s Ministry YouthThis week we are going to take a look at the NEW book “Intentional Parenting – Family Discipleship by Design” written by Tad Thompson.  Tad is a father and the Lead Pastor of Harvard Avenue Baptist Church in Siloam Springs, Arkansas.  One thing that most of us can agree upon is that we must continue to improve upon how children are discipled.  This book was written with that concept in mind.

“Over the preceding twenty years the number of full-time youth pastors has grown dramatically and a plethora of magazines, music, and ideas aimed at youth has been birthed along the way.  Meanwhile, during that same time span, the numbers of young people won to Christ has dropped at about as fast a rate.”  - Alvin Reid, professor of evangelism Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary.

We’ve all heard it said that parents must become the spiritual leaders of their children.  The statement above clearly points out that things must change in our churches if we are to accomplish this mandate.  So, how do we as leaders of Children’s and Youth Ministries work toward “giving back” the responsibility?  In “Intentional Parenting” Tad is writing with this stated objective:

“It is my desire that this book will help the local church equip parents to engage in the discipleship task.”Tad Thompson

This week we are going to take a Chapter by Chapter look at what “Intentional Parenting” recommends. The chapters include:

The Need – The Mirror – The Kitchen – The Living Room – The Bedroom – Time to Engage

So, what to you think of Alvin Reid’s quote? What do you see as the primary reason for the decline in kids coming to know Christ?  Leave a Comment for your Chance to Win a copy of “Intentional Parenting.”  We are giving away 5 copies to our readers this week!

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  1. Kelli Espiritu September 27, 2011 at 12:35 pm - Reply

    “Meanwhile, during that same time span, the numbers of young people won to Christ has dropped at about as fast a rate.” That information floored me! I think the level of tolerance and self sufficiency has contributed to the decline of kids getting saved. Some parents, due to technology, feel inferior and ill equipped to speak into their kids lives. They don’t understand their kids and the social media draw and claim they’re too busy to fb etc. Like a slow burn…some parents are out of touch….and loose their influence of all things spiritual.

  2. Jon Pinney September 27, 2011 at 2:48 pm - Reply

    While we need to retrain parents how to disciple their own children, using the church as support, Youth ministries need to shift from evangelism and into discipleship themselves. With only about 9% of people coming to Christ in they Jr. and Sr. high years, countless fun and exciting outreach events are not the way to build the kingdom. Work towards building the kingdom when the children are younger and then build on that relationship as they prepare to move out into life on their own. That way we will also have college students with a stronger foundation to stand on once they leave the relative safety of their parent’s home.

  3. Keith September 27, 2011 at 3:30 pm - Reply

    I would say that every generation of parents and children have a “gap.” It may be technology, music, life-experiences, and more.  It falls upon the parents to make the effort to connect regardless of the difficulty.  I say this as a parent who has kids from 8 – 25 and I know it can be hard to make that connection.

  4. Keith September 27, 2011 at 3:33 pm - Reply

    Well said.  I know it’s easier to focus on events rather than discipleship but the “proof is the pudding.”  We have seen a “slow fade” for years and need to make the course corrections necessary to truly disciple students.

  5. Vanessa September 27, 2011 at 9:52 pm - Reply

    There are so many activities and entertainment choices bombarding kids and families today that church attendance and Bible study often take a back seat. And it seems that the values of our culture and media have definitely changed too. Unlike past generations in which the Bible was read in public schools, today’s generation of parents may not have grown up attending church or reading the Bible, and therefore aren’t as likely to instill those habits in their children and train them in the ways of the Lord.

  6. Jenelle Livet September 28, 2011 at 4:43 am - Reply

    Unfortunately the youth of today have little regard for religion as there are so many other distractions these days. It is so hard for young people to fathom the importance of religion. Thanks for this site I will send the link to my children and hope they follow it and find this great site

  7. Rebekah September 28, 2011 at 9:44 am - Reply

    Church has lost its importance. Families have too many things going on and they only come to church when there is nothing else going on. Instead of making church the thing they schedule first. IF parents aren’t making God a top priority why would kids?

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